If It Scares You, Do That

This weekend I was out with the person who has been keeping a smile on my face and we went to a wine tasting. It was a 90s R&B themed event featuring Old World wines. It was an amazingly educational evening of fun complete with us proving to be the best team and winning trivia. –Granted it was one question, but he didn’t know the answer and I came in clutch #teamwork!-

So at the event, baby, the hood showed up! Not too much but a representative delegate couple was there… complete with matching, airbrushed, Nipsy Hustle in the clouds, t-shirts, YES! Pure entertainment! But really, I am thoroughly pleased that they were at the event. It is nice to see people stepping out of their comfort zones and tried something new. This made my heart smile.

This is a phenomenal lesson! We all need to do things that are scary. We need to try new things and step out of our comfort zones. We need to look danger in the eye and laugh- ha, ha, ha, ha, haaaa! (Simba style) I have been truly understanding this more and more lately.

Get ready, here comes some honesty and transparency… *bracing myself*

I have been a terrible person over the past year or so. I have had an amazing person in my life whom I treated like absolute crap on one occasion because I was afraid of where things were headed. Now, things were in a great direction. He was amazing! I couldn’t have asked for a more kind, thoughtful, and playful person to be around. And I had no reason to be the way I was but I was.

I was scared. I did not want to allow myself to be open to what was happening. I was afraid to allow myself to let someone in – to let down my guard. So I ran… I ran because I was, (if I am being honest) I was running from something new and exciting.  I was afraid to take a chance and try something new.

Well, I have since come to my senses. I have realized that I had something great right in front of me and I just needed to take a chance. I had to try something new. You should know I have a history of just giving enough in relationships to keep things afloat but not enough to really show myself vulnerable. Commitment is scary to me! But here I am (after lots of conversations bopping me over the head) being committed to one person. And when I tell you this has been the best idea I (or the lovely friends who put up with my mental kinesthetics over this) have had in a while. I am still scared every way but I am doing this and enjoying what happens when I face my fear.

So, sis, I think it’s time for us all to face a fear or two. Give something that scares the rock off you half to death. It is time to give something that seems insane that you would try it a shot. Start that business plan, shoot that shot, fill out that application, enroll in that class, write the screenplay, or record that video. Say yes to a date with him or her. If it scares you but won’t hurt you (or anybody else) go ‘head and give it a shot!